Do you really want that, or do you just think you SHOULD want it?

Intentional choice is a prerequisite for success.Choice is a double-edged sword.

On the one hand, knowing you have options to choose from creates a sense of personal power and calm. On the other, the sheer number of options and opportunities facing you can easily lead to you feeling overwhelmed.

I’ve come to notice there’s yet another challenge inherent in making good choices: knowing for sure that those choices reflect your true wishes rather than another’s expectation of or wish for you. In other words, you get to figure out whether you really want that goal you’re working toward, or if you’re doing it to make other people think well of you.

If we’re honest, almost all of us will acknowledge our desire to be admired and encouraged by those around us. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, unless we sacrifice our heartfelt wishes in order to achieve that admiration.

Does your To Do list address your dreams?

Think you might have inadvertently gotten sucked in to pursuing other people’s important goals instead of your own? Here are some clues that your dreams may have gotten highjacked.

If you found yourself answering “yes” to any of those questions, it may be time to get away from your daily grind and reflect on the goals that matter to you. We’ll explore how to do that in the next post.

(Thanks to nicksarebi for posting the signpost image in the Creative Commons section of Flickr.)

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5 Responses to Do you really want that, or do you just think you SHOULD want it?

  1. I love that you connected your goals to emotions and core values. I think we get caught up sometimes in what we ‘think’ we should be doing instead of what our hearts tell us we need to be doing.

    These are truly fabulous questions to start rocking the insights that will lead anyone back on their true path if they have wandered off of it.

    • Kathleen Mavity Kathleen says:

      Ooh, ooh, I love “fabulous”! For some reason, it makes me feel like I should go find a feather boa to wear at my desk. 🙂

      I’m glad this resonated with you, Bonnie; thanks for sharing.

  2. Jane Lovas says:

    This is great… Do you have someone’s dream and not your own? Or maybe you’re afraid to live your dream?

    • Kathleen Mavity Kathleen says:

      It’s not always easy to tell if it’s your dream or someone else’s, is it?

      As for those people who fear to live their own dreams, they’re the ones who most deserve to read and absorb Marianne Williamson’s beautiful work, A Return to Love.

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