Category Archives: mindset
Who’s pushing your buttons?
We all have them: those people, words, and actions that push our buttons and hijack our peace of mind. When you allow that button pushing, the very best you can hope for is just a few hours of crankiness. Too … Continue reading
But they’re WRONG!!
So….. I was locked in combat with the beast known as Facebook advertising. When I tried to re-run an ad – previously approved by FB in every detail – my account was instantly shut down for “non-compliance with our policies.” … Continue reading
If it works for a bird-brain…
Warning! Warning!! If you’re 100% committed to using only tangible, nuts-and-bolts tools to build your business, you’d best bail out now. However, if you’re 100% committed to using the best tangible tools and the best mindset tools available, you’ll love … Continue reading
High fives and high vibes
A recent misunderstanding expanded my horizons. My friend, Marinda, and I were talking about how it can be challenging these days to focus on what’s working instead of what’s screwed up, and to be courageous instead of fearful. We went … Continue reading
How you are anywhere is how you are everywhere.
This phrase stopped me dead in my tracks the first time I heard it. On the surface it sounds almost trite or simplistic, when in reality it’s profound. The way I read it, this observation makes it clear that our … Continue reading
Turning the pandemic on its head.
I almost never address current affairs in these posts. However, I realized that – if we so choose – we can actually create something useful out of the present experience…and that’s totally in alignment with my goal of sharing useful … Continue reading
Where is it, where is it…?
I’ve come to completely believe that you generally find what you look for and, as a result, you generally get what you expect to get. This perspective is incredibly powerful, because it puts control of your experiences in your hands … Continue reading
How trash talk can trash your bottom line
“What a jerk!” That was my thought early this morning when I opened my blinds to see my across-the-street neighbor had, once again, parked his pick-up truck – complete with attached fishing boat – in front of my house. Since … Continue reading
Do the stories you tell help or hinder?
Stories can celebrate or denigrate; fuel progress or impede it; make you feel on top of the world or at the bottom of the Mariana Trench. The good news is two-fold. One, you can always, always, choose which stories … Continue reading
Are you still using positive thinking as a tool for growth? Then think again.
When The Secret came out about 10 years ago, it was a mixed blessing. On the one hand, it introduced a lot of people to the concept that you’re truly more powerful than perhaps you ever gave yourself credit … Continue reading
What would it be worth to stop making bad decisions?
How many times have you hesitated to make a decision because you were so concerned about making the “right” one? How many times has your hesitation led to missed opportunities? If you’re like many entrepreneurs, the answers are “lots” and … Continue reading
“Hope” is not a success strategy, but this is.
Last year, I applied to be a speaker and behind-the-scenes crew member at an international conference. Since I’d already spoken at another conference held by the same organization, I was feeling confident – maybe even a bit smug – about … Continue reading
3 ways to take advantage of those annoying people
You know who they are: the walking human ivy all around you whose sole purpose in life seems to be irritating you. Prospects, clients, vendors, collaborators, friends, neighbors, family members…any and all may fall into this category. Since you … Continue reading
Have you been suckered by the LOA?
The first month of the new year is already half over. How’s it going for you so far? January is typically a time for planning and setting goals, and a lot of people are probably relying on the Law Of … Continue reading
Who’s running your business: Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde?
My husband, Joseph, is a confirmed movie fanatic. While we have a fairly enormous collection of DVD’s, he’s always sampling new ones from the library, and I never know what will show up next. Recently he brought home a … Continue reading
Isn’t it time to declare your independence?
Soon, those of us in the United States will be celebrating Independence Day, a holiday we normally associate with a political event back in 1776. However, you don’t have to be creating a whole new nation to declare an … Continue reading
The power of sacred selfishness
According to Dictionary.com, to be selfish is to be “devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others; characterized by or manifesting concern or care only for oneself.” Sheesh. … Continue reading
Does faith or fear drive you?
Of all the things my parents told me as I was growing up, one phrase loomed large: “Be careful!!” I grew up thinking of the world as a scary and dangerous place, with many fearsome people, events, and activities … Continue reading
How well is your emotional GPS working?
I’ve come to the conclusion that the newfangled gadget called a Global Positioning System is actually magic. You tell it your destination and start the car, and it tells you where to go (in very polite terms) so you … Continue reading
Do you allow success into your life?
Say you’re about to go to dinner at your favorite local restaurant. Would you drive with one foot on the accelerator and one on the brake? Not if you wanted to actually enjoy the fabulous meal awaiting you. But … Continue reading
Do you have faith that it WON’T work out?
William Shakespeare once observed, “All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players.” In my opinion, this is only partly accurate, because we are directors of as well as actors in the production called “life.” … Continue reading
Are you scared or are you excited?
October is just around the corner, and many people are already looking forward to the end of the month − specifically, October 31st. Whether you’re talking about a kid eagerly anticipating Halloween costumes and candy, or a pagan planning … Continue reading
Belief-busting for a better business
Beliefs are like bones. You can’t see your bones, but they provide the structural framework for your entire body. Similarly, you can’t see your beliefs, but they provide the structure for the world you experience every single day. Your … Continue reading
Ready for some positive paranoia?
Chances are you’ve heard the rather bleak joke that observes, “Just because you’re paranoid doesn’t mean they’re not out to get you.” Ouch. You may have come to realize you’re one of the many, many people who find it easy … Continue reading
Mind-reading made easy
You’ve gotta give a lot of parents “A” for “effort”, because they do their very best to keep their kids safe and free from emotional or physical harm. Unfortunately, some of us, as a result of our well-intentioned parents, … Continue reading
Should your nickname be Pollyanna or Eeyore?
Even if you’ve never read Eleanor Porter’s most famous book, Pollyanna, you probably know that the main character’s name has become synonymous with a sunny, almost relentlessly cheerful outlook on life. Similarly, if you’ve ever seen any books or … Continue reading
Is it an epic fail or just a mistake?
There are just two groups of people in the world: those who have experienced the fateful moment when you realize your great idea turned out to be not so great after all, and those who will experience the fateful … Continue reading
Bad breath is the LEAST of your problems.
You wouldn’t think of leaving the house for your first appointment of the day without brushing your teeth, would you? No way; such basic physical hygiene is a habitual part of your morning routine. Skipping it would definitely lead to … Continue reading
Is “power” a four-letter word for you?
What do you picture when someone says the word “power”? Do you think of it in terms of physical strength? Great intelligence? Lots of money? Does “power” have very positive connotations for you, or do you … Continue reading
Better a potty mouth than a potty mind
Few clients or strategic allies would find use of obscenities an acceptable business practice, so most of us make sure to avoid inflicting a “potty mouth” on our important stakeholders. However, as awkward and unprofessional as it would be to … Continue reading
Are you playing to win or playing not to lose?
Successful entrepreneurs know there’s a big difference between playing to win and playing not to lose. I reluctantly admit that in years past I became quite familiar with what playing not to lose looks like. Fortunately, those experiences now serve … Continue reading
Just how big a liar are you?
Mindset. It’s a term that may be tossed around all over the place, but that doesn’t mean it’s not crucial to your success—or failure. How you think and talk to yourself can propel you forward or keep you mired … Continue reading
How being able to keep your balance while drying your toes is a predictor of business success
The mere fact that you’ve read this far is an indicator that you’re willing to learn and consider new possibilities. That already puts you ahead in the game. Woohoo for you! So why do I make this seemingly ridiculous claim … Continue reading
How to take action even though you’re a perfectionist
Perfectionism. It’s a chain I dragged behind me for many years. I hear many people admit to being perfectionists as if it were a badge of honor. However, I’ve come to believe that, in reality, perfectionism is just an excuse … Continue reading
How to use love and an attitude of service as powerful business-development tools
Think of the last time you had a major problem you needed help with. It doesn’t have to be work related. It could be a problem like the one we faced recently, when our furnace quit working the night the … Continue reading
Authentic networking trumps “working the room” every time .
Did you see Ghostbusters back in the ‘80s? One of my favorite lines in that movie comes in the scene where Bill Murray’s character has just had a very close encounter with a gooey green ghost. When one of his … Continue reading
The politician’s guide to honest, authentic, and effective communication
Quick—what pops to mind when you hear the word “politician”? While there are certainly exceptions to every rule, I’ll bet money that you came up with at least one or two of the following (or similar) phrases: snake-oil salesman … Continue reading
Keepin’ the faith: three steps to staying energized and motivated
Instant gratification. It’s hard not to expect it. Have a tough question you need answered? Instead of going to a library to search through books, you can use Google to research it and get back millions of hits in a … Continue reading
Five strategies to grow yourself big and bold
If you read last Thursday’s post, you noticed it was just a bit on the gloom-and-doom side. That’s because I pointed out some ways that even talented entrepreneurs can sabotage their own success. I realize that, if you’re like many … Continue reading
Five strategies to keep yourself safe – and small
Many of us talk about wanting to grow our businesses big. What’s curious is how frequently the “big” talk is sabotaged by small thoughts and small actions. You may have found yourself in that very situation: You have great ideas … Continue reading
The minimalist guide to always getting positive outcomes
I know, I know. Speaking in absolutes, like the word “always”, is a good way to get yourself in trouble. But I contend that there is a way to always experience a positive outcome. It just depends on how you … Continue reading
Are you making yourself a victim with these 7 power-robbing phrases?
Wow – another year has flown by. Happy New Year to all! I wrapped up 2013 talking about how every self-fulfilling prophecy can work for or against you, and about how distorted thinking is a dangerously effective way to sabotage … Continue reading
Take responsibility for your success, but don’t go overboard.
One of the key lessons parents teach their children is what it means to take responsibility. The type of responsibility taught undoubtedly varies from family to family, but, unfortunately, there are some counterproductive views of responsibility that cross all kinds … Continue reading
Through a glass darkly: the dangers of faulty perception
One of the stories that was told in my family as far back as I can remember is that I was the child with “the good brain.” (My older sisters were dubbed “the no-nonsense one” and “the sensitive one.”) Needless … Continue reading
How do you define success and failure?
There are many ways to be your own worst enemy. One common way is to fall prey to counterproductive thinking in which your definitions of circumstances and situations steal away your energy and personal power. Here are some distorted definitions … Continue reading
The self-fulfilling prophecy: road to success or failure?
It’s all in your head. Wishing won’t make it come true. What makes you such a big deal? There’s an almost endless litany of messages that pound away at us, and many of them, unfortunately, are horrendously counterproductive. Are your … Continue reading
Are you prepared for success or failure? Think about it!
Your greatest business ally and your worst business enemy are two sides of the same coin. That coin is your habitual way of thinking. As Sally Kempton once said, “It’s hard to fight an enemy who has outposts in your … Continue reading
Mindset, money, BrickBreaker – oh, my!
A positive, powerful mindset is crucial to business success. How’s yours? Continue reading
How to fail your way to success
While rarely fatal, failure IS often painful. How can you encourage yourself to deal with the pain so you earn the future payoff of improved results? Continue reading
Would you rather be comfortable or prosperous?
Jeff Olson, in his book The Slight Edge, observed that “Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do.” In other words, unsuccessful people value their short-term comfort more than their long-term results. This seems to be a … Continue reading